The short verdict
FindFemboys is a lively community app with games, photo contests, Stories and radio, and it describes itself as a place to make friends and real connections. Sissy Dates is a private dating site for sissies, crossdressers, femboys and admirers, built around profiles, messages and moderated voice notes. If you want a social hangout with femboy culture at its centre, FindFemboys is worth a look. If your goal is femboy dating, meaning you want to find someone and actually go on a date, Sissy Dates is the more focused choice.
What people mean by a femboy dating site
As the word femboy has moved from niche forums into everyday slang, more people describe what they want as femboy dating. Most people using that phrase want one of two things. Femboys want somewhere they can show a soft, pretty, feminine style without explaining it from scratch on every chat. Admirers want somewhere they can say plainly that they are attracted to femboys without being treated as a novelty or a threat.
A good femboy dating site serves both sides. It lets femboys set boundaries about labels and pronouns, it lets admirers be honest about attraction, and it keeps the whole thing private enough that nobody has to worry about a coworker stumbling across their profile. We wrote a full guide to femboy dating on Sissy Dates if you want the long version.
What FindFemboys is, in its own words
FindFemboys calls itself a community app for femboys, crossdressers, admirers and friends. It is for adults 18 and over, runs in any phone or computer browser, can be added to your home screen like an app, and is available in 16 languages. The older desktop version has been retired in favour of the app, and the site says existing accounts can be recovered.
Its feature list is broad. Find lets you browse new, active and popular members and members in your country. Messages handles private chat. Stories are photos and videos that disappear after 24 hours. The Hall of Fameboy and Femboy Fashion Hall are monthly photo contests decided by member votes. There are themed games, a radio station with music by DJ Mandy Heart, and a daily allowance of Social Credits that members spend on photos and videos in chat, Stories and contest votes. Basic membership costs nothing, and VIP is an optional upgrade that adds unlimited text messages and the filters on Find.
What Sissy Dates is
Sissy Dates is an 18+ private members site where femboys, sissies, crossdressers and TV members meet the men, women and couples who admire them. It is deliberately simpler than a social app. You build a profile, describe your style and what you are hoping to find, browse members, and talk. Voice notes are now available and moderated, so you can hear someone's voice before you decide to meet.
Privacy runs through the whole product. Your personal email and details are not on display to other members, and your bank statement will not show SissyDates.com. Email from the site is SenderScore certified and you can opt out any time.
Side by side
| What you care about | Sissy Dates | FindFemboys |
|---|---|---|
| Main purpose | Private dating for femboys, sissies, crossdressers and admirers | Community app for friends and connections, with dating as one outcome |
| Format | Website with member profiles and messaging | Browser app you can add to your home screen |
| Extras | Moderated voice notes | Stories, photo contests, games, radio, daily Social Credits |
| Messaging | Private one-to-one messages and moderated voice notes | Private messages, with unlimited text messages on VIP |
| Who you meet | Men, women, couples and TV or crossdresser members | Femboys, crossdressers, admirers and friends |
| Privacy | Email and details hidden; discreet billing | Check its privacy and refund pages before upgrading |
| Best for | Finding a date or a partner | Hanging out, posting, voting and making friends |
Community app or dating site?
This is the real decision, and it has little to do with which brand is better. A community app is designed to keep you around. Games, contests and disappearing Stories give people a reason to open it every day, and that energy can be a lot of fun. It is also noisy. When half the activity is votes and posts, a quiet message from someone who wants to take you to dinner can get buried.
A dating site is designed to move you from a profile to a conversation to a meeting. There is less to do on Sissy Dates, on purpose. The profile asks what you want, the search shows people who might want the same, and the messages are where the work happens. If you already have friends in the femboy scene and you want a date, that narrow focus helps.
Femboys: which one helps you get dates?
Femboys often say the hardest part of dating is filtering. You want admirers who like you as you are, not people who want you to be a different fantasy. On Sissy Dates you can say exactly what you are looking for, what labels you use, and what you will not do, and the people who message you have read that. Our profile tips guide shows how to write those lines so they sound warm rather than defensive.
On FindFemboys you may get more attention, especially if you post Stories or enter the photo contests. Attention is not the same as a date, though. If you enjoy the spotlight, use it. If you want fewer, better conversations, a dating site with clear profiles will feel calmer.
Admirers: which one is more welcoming?
Both sites say admirers are welcome, which is good to see. FindFemboys lists admirers in its description, and Sissy Dates was built for both sides from the start. The difference is context. On a social app, an admirer who jumps straight into flirting can come across as out of place among people who are there to chat and play games. On a dating site, being clear about attraction is the point. Admirers who are new to this should read our guide on how to message on a sissy dating site, because the same manners work with femboys.
Privacy and safety
For a lot of femboys and admirers, discretion matters more than any feature. Sissy Dates keeps your email and personal details off your profile and uses discreet billing. Voice notes are moderated, which helps keep a new way of talking from becoming a new way to harass people. If you use any app with public posts or contests, remember that photos you post for votes are seen by many more people than a private message.
The safety basics are the same everywhere. Keep early chats on the platform, never send money, video chat or trade voice notes before meeting, and pick a public place the first time. Our safety page covers the rest.
Our verdict
FindFemboys is a creative community app that suits people who want friends, games and a bit of friendly competition alongside the chance of romance. Sissy Dates is the better femboy dating site when the goal is a real date, because everything on it points toward profiles, private conversation and meeting someone who already understands your style. Plenty of people use a community app for fun and a dating site for dating, and there is nothing wrong with that. If you want the dating part handled well, start on Sissy Dates.
Frequently asked questions
Is FindFemboys a dating site?
It describes itself as a community app for femboys, crossdressers, admirers and friends, aimed at friendships and real connections. Dating can happen there, but the app also leans heavily on games, contests and Stories.
Is Sissy Dates good for femboy dating?
Yes. Femboys and the people who admire them are a core part of the community, alongside sissies, crossdressers, TV members and couples. Read the femboy dating page for how it works.
Can admirers use both sites?
Yes. Both sites welcome admirers. On Sissy Dates admirers can be direct about attraction, as long as they are respectful and read profiles first.
How does messaging work on each site?
FindFemboys says its basic membership costs nothing and VIP adds unlimited text messages and Find filters. Sissy Dates offers private one-to-one messages and moderated voice notes, and any price is shown before you buy.
Are Sissy Dates and FindFemboys connected?
No. They are separate sites with separate members. A profile on one does not appear on the other.